“you shouldn’t be walking alone at this time of night”
people shouldn’t fucking attack other people at any time of day
No more excuses.
I will forever reblog this
It’s sort of horrifying that we all know what they’re talking about without them really saying it.. that it’s become that much of a norm in our society that we just know.
Capybaras are apparently the chill bro homies of nature, hanging out with everyone. i want one.
has anyone ever stopped to think about what ridiculous animals goats are
WHAT THE FUCK
HOW DID YOU EVEN GET UP THERE
ARE THESE ANIMALS EVEN REAL
????? ?? ? ???????//
SOMEONE FUCKING EXPLAIN THIS SHIT TO ME
Fucking goats man
Realizing I deserved better changed everything.
Bob Saget: Saying fuck you to gender roles since 1994.
I took a 7 week coast to coast road trip after being laid off from Boeing. I didn’t have a camper but realized that being able to pull off the road at a rest or truck stop was the way to go to make the trip affordable. With a few sheets of 1/2” plywood and misc. hardware this is what I came up with. The effort was well worth the time and materials.
I think this is one of those more subtle things that people don’t realize is common among all cultures both East and West, regardless of the superficial societal differences. It starts in childhood and becomes a part of how we treat what women say. My first three years of elementary school taught me that no matter how much I am beaten and bullied, my parents and teachers would: 1. doubt that anyone would do that to me (even when I had the bruises and ripped clothes to prove it) 2. ask what I did to provoke that kind of a response (because surely, a 6 year old must have done something to get beaten by a bunch of 5th and 6th graders) 3. believe the account of the other parties and as a result 4. there is no one that take my side or help me.
For the record, one of the things my parents have always bragged about—since I was a small child? How I was unable to lie and how much I suffered in silence. They were proud of the fact that I would suffer in silence and not complain. They were also both SHOCKED when I ended my 10 year marriage, asking, “Why didn’t you ever say anything? You always said things are fine.” very quickly followed by, “Did you do anything to make him react that way? He was always so nice.”
Society behavior isn’t changed based on personal stories—and it shouldn’t be. But we need to change. It is unhealthy for everyone to be suspicious of what half of society says based on prejudice.
Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying…
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.